Friday, January 13, 2012
Love and the rest of the complications
Love is a funny thing. i mean don't get me wrong, i know what love is. its amazing. floating on cloud 9 sort of thing but then comes the complications. love isn't exactly rocket science. its a very simple thing. you can't stop thinking about that one person and you find that one person you can't stop thinking about and then if really have strong feelings for that person the inevetable happens. you finally get it out of the way. take the plunge. at this point its one of those things that can make or break your feelings. *sigh* thats when things can become really complicated but i'm not worried at this point. it was meant to happen. no regrets, just love :)
Saturday, January 7, 2012
50's lady or 10's sluts?
so on facebook a debate has started as to who should approach who when it comes to dating. that debate started from another question on someone elses status now a guy is giving his point of view and well, its not the most polite discussion on his part. anyway, my opinion on the subject is this, everyone is different!
i want to be courted and persued. period. i am and old soul and believe in romance. plus i'm southern and well wanted to be treated like the lady i am! the point that hussies tend to hurt the good girls chances at guys was made. where i live young women give it up like its going out of style. don't get me wrong, i don't see anything wrong in getting yours when you can. that is totally their choice but don't be offended if you are called a slut b/c of it. i lost my virginity at 25 to someone i am VERY happy to have lost it too. we werent in a relationship, at least a formal one, but to me it was meant to be. i wouldn't change it for anything. the timing was right. i don't know how some girls can just go out there and let a guy pop it in just for a little bit of satisfaction and that be it. i mean thats pretty much how it happened but i know deep down it meant a little something to him too. hes a guy, a young one at that, and i didn't expect him to cuddle or talk about it. i mean we did talk about it later and months after but its all good. i feel no regret, i wasn't heartbroken, he had already done that a few months before, didn't feel used or any of that. thats how i knew it was right.
but i definatly want a man to court me, get to know me, wait a couple months before trying to bed me! the guy i speak of often hasn't tried to lay me down once. i know he wants to and it more than likely won't happen anytime soon but its been almost a year and the time we have spent together we haven't even kissed! oh boy do i want to though! it took me a while to even want to. i don't really know why. it was nice just being around him. we can talk and have good conversation. i don't get that often but we want the same things it just can't happen now. i could sit here and say that it will happen sooner or later but i said the same thing with the other guy and it still hasn't happened. 2 years later... but that guy is just a baby with a lot of learning to do. i'm going to marry him someday :) this other guy, i can see myself marrying him too. i just want to crawl inside him and lay there and i still don't think id be close enough to him. is that the definition of soulmate?
anyway, i am fine where i'm at now. its been a hard pill to swallow but slowly but surely things are coming my way!
i want to be courted and persued. period. i am and old soul and believe in romance. plus i'm southern and well wanted to be treated like the lady i am! the point that hussies tend to hurt the good girls chances at guys was made. where i live young women give it up like its going out of style. don't get me wrong, i don't see anything wrong in getting yours when you can. that is totally their choice but don't be offended if you are called a slut b/c of it. i lost my virginity at 25 to someone i am VERY happy to have lost it too. we werent in a relationship, at least a formal one, but to me it was meant to be. i wouldn't change it for anything. the timing was right. i don't know how some girls can just go out there and let a guy pop it in just for a little bit of satisfaction and that be it. i mean thats pretty much how it happened but i know deep down it meant a little something to him too. hes a guy, a young one at that, and i didn't expect him to cuddle or talk about it. i mean we did talk about it later and months after but its all good. i feel no regret, i wasn't heartbroken, he had already done that a few months before, didn't feel used or any of that. thats how i knew it was right.
but i definatly want a man to court me, get to know me, wait a couple months before trying to bed me! the guy i speak of often hasn't tried to lay me down once. i know he wants to and it more than likely won't happen anytime soon but its been almost a year and the time we have spent together we haven't even kissed! oh boy do i want to though! it took me a while to even want to. i don't really know why. it was nice just being around him. we can talk and have good conversation. i don't get that often but we want the same things it just can't happen now. i could sit here and say that it will happen sooner or later but i said the same thing with the other guy and it still hasn't happened. 2 years later... but that guy is just a baby with a lot of learning to do. i'm going to marry him someday :) this other guy, i can see myself marrying him too. i just want to crawl inside him and lay there and i still don't think id be close enough to him. is that the definition of soulmate?
anyway, i am fine where i'm at now. its been a hard pill to swallow but slowly but surely things are coming my way!
Friday, January 6, 2012
Timing is everything
I am a strong believer that everything happens for a reason. we don't always have the answers right in front of us when we want them too. since my dad passed this saying is so true. don't get me wrong and think i don't do anything to try and make things happen but i don't push the issue either. Love falls into that category. there is this guy. he really likes me and while we are friends and yes hes younger, he wants all the answers to his problems now. unfortunatly its not that easy and all i really want to do is tell him what i think he should do but that isn't my place. what he should do is break up with his girlfriend, deal with whats going on now without that bourdon (s/p), and start fresh when the situation is over. but that's up to him.
we talked for a couple hours yesterday. it was so good to hear his voice and that crackly cackle of his when he's sleepy. i'm so glad that we've become such good friend. i only wish he would open up to me as much as he says. i know more than he probably thinks i do about his situation but he hasn't told me. oh well, its not really my place to be told i guess but he does say he trusts me and can really talk to me.
so my advice to anyone out there in a tight spot and not sure what to do. if you're in a relationship but not happy with who your with, don't think you have to stick with them just b/c. people that are with eachother for years breakup all the time. its no big deal. do whats best for you not everyone else.
we talked for a couple hours yesterday. it was so good to hear his voice and that crackly cackle of his when he's sleepy. i'm so glad that we've become such good friend. i only wish he would open up to me as much as he says. i know more than he probably thinks i do about his situation but he hasn't told me. oh well, its not really my place to be told i guess but he does say he trusts me and can really talk to me.
so my advice to anyone out there in a tight spot and not sure what to do. if you're in a relationship but not happy with who your with, don't think you have to stick with them just b/c. people that are with eachother for years breakup all the time. its no big deal. do whats best for you not everyone else.
Thursday, January 5, 2012
we all speak English right?
pet peeve #453975 of mine is this, when people don't use proper grammar! when you reach a certain age in my book there comes a time when the way you speak and write reflect your intellegence. we learn the difference between their, there, and they're in elementary school. not i'm from the south and yes i have an accent but i don't sound like the uneducated bumbling idiot you see on tv and in the movies. i speak well and have sense enough to know what words go where! you look stupid when you don't use the correct words! there is a difference between Ms. Miss, and Mrs. one indicates not sure if being married or not. in pageants it just puts you in a different category b/c you're in between the Miss and Mrs age divisions. Miss indicates single status and Mrs. means married. and yes it does matter. Since, Sense, and Cents. Your and You're. Affect and Effect. its just simple things that make or break how people see you. use proper grammar. no one is perfect but damn spellcheck is on everything these days and if there isn't then pull up Word and use it there! oh yeah, there is another, to, too, and two.
Good day and more bitching to come later i'm sure!
Good day and more bitching to come later i'm sure!
Wednesday, January 4, 2012
Boots and Boys
Today i would like to talk about boys. this is a topic that i will speak of on more than one occation. so here goes. i like them young. i'm 26 but am in love with an 18 year old. my first kiss was when i was 24 and with an 18 year old. i just like my guys young. i get it honest with my grandmother and my mama. my parents were 7 years apart, granny was only a few months older than my gramps, and the same with my maternal grandparents. i'm a late bloomer in life so it shouldn't comes as a shock that i would like them young. i can relate to them better. it doesn't make me a bad person nor a predator. people tell me all the time that i need a man and find someone my age or older. um, thanks but they are no better! just b/c someone is older doesn't make them better that's for sure. on that note i will say i have no luck in the boyfriend department. my dad was always the man in my life. i just never felt the need to run out and have a boyfriend. he provided for me, call me old fashioned, and i had no real worries. don't get me wrong, i worked and hated taking money from him when he offered it and when i did ask for money it was very small amounts. i'm talking $20 or less. anyway, after he died i ventured into the land of boys!!!! my first kiss came the summer after he passed away. what a magical time before it went to hell. i am not one to regret and i don't. i could not have asked for a better first kiss. i thought wow, this is going to be an awesome summer. a week later it went to pot. that's what happens when you live in a smalltown and you're a hot guy with a reputation. needless to say he got what he wanted with a girl he'd been wanting for over a year. that relationship only lasted 2 months. i'm still friends with both of them to this day.
next guy to enter my life was his best friend. and let me tell ya, the work OOPS doesn't even begin to describe the next year of our lives. needless to say, that kid impacted my life more than anyone and i know he certainly didn't mean to do so. the guy after that is another doozy. why do guys already in relationships seem to fall so hard for me? i mean damn. if you aren't happy in your current relationship why drag them and the other girl along? i'm no saint and i'm not claiming to be but let me tell ya, don't use the excuse that you're young and not ready to settle down deter you from being happy in your current life! so what if the girl you want to be with could be your wife one day. be with her if that is what makes you happy NOW b/c one day she will be gone and you missed out. another guy i dealt with was totally different. all the above were white guys with dark hair and blue eyes. the last guy was total opposite. out of my usual zone but willing to give him a try. BIG.MISTAKE. lesson learned, never date a guy that breaks up with his girlfriend the day before. i mean it was evident that he liked me and probably had for quite some time. we'd known eachother for years but he screwed up any type of friendship later in life. i didn't even like him to begin with but was willing to give it a try only to be shafted once again! i'm defective.
so anyway, here we are. i'm in love with one guy and really close with another. here are my criteria of what i'm looking for:
Natural Born Male (lol)
Employed
Nonsmoker preferred (highly)
Attatchment free ( dramatic ex's, no children, no ex-wives, etc...)
Must have an appreciation for 90's music. and i'm talking about more than knowing a couple Nirvana songs
Have goals and aspirations.
are those too hard to have? while what i'm really attracted to are skinny white boys with dark hair and blue eyes, i am open to anyone that is attractive with a good personality. there are a couple guys at work that are very good looking, only one i would want to get to know better, but their personalities kill me. that's another posting though.
so there you have it. a little glimpse into my boy issues. nothing real exciting but what's important to me :)
anyway, and that is about as far as it goes with my experience with guys. had my first date at 21, first kiss at 24, and turned in my v-card at 25. and none of these guys were my boyfriends. lol.
next guy to enter my life was his best friend. and let me tell ya, the work OOPS doesn't even begin to describe the next year of our lives. needless to say, that kid impacted my life more than anyone and i know he certainly didn't mean to do so. the guy after that is another doozy. why do guys already in relationships seem to fall so hard for me? i mean damn. if you aren't happy in your current relationship why drag them and the other girl along? i'm no saint and i'm not claiming to be but let me tell ya, don't use the excuse that you're young and not ready to settle down deter you from being happy in your current life! so what if the girl you want to be with could be your wife one day. be with her if that is what makes you happy NOW b/c one day she will be gone and you missed out. another guy i dealt with was totally different. all the above were white guys with dark hair and blue eyes. the last guy was total opposite. out of my usual zone but willing to give him a try. BIG.MISTAKE. lesson learned, never date a guy that breaks up with his girlfriend the day before. i mean it was evident that he liked me and probably had for quite some time. we'd known eachother for years but he screwed up any type of friendship later in life. i didn't even like him to begin with but was willing to give it a try only to be shafted once again! i'm defective.
so anyway, here we are. i'm in love with one guy and really close with another. here are my criteria of what i'm looking for:
Natural Born Male (lol)
Employed
Nonsmoker preferred (highly)
Attatchment free ( dramatic ex's, no children, no ex-wives, etc...)
Must have an appreciation for 90's music. and i'm talking about more than knowing a couple Nirvana songs
Have goals and aspirations.
are those too hard to have? while what i'm really attracted to are skinny white boys with dark hair and blue eyes, i am open to anyone that is attractive with a good personality. there are a couple guys at work that are very good looking, only one i would want to get to know better, but their personalities kill me. that's another posting though.
so there you have it. a little glimpse into my boy issues. nothing real exciting but what's important to me :)
anyway, and that is about as far as it goes with my experience with guys. had my first date at 21, first kiss at 24, and turned in my v-card at 25. and none of these guys were my boyfriends. lol.
Tuesday, January 3, 2012
grin and bear it people!
Today's gripe is about drama and bitchassness!
so it is the new year. many are saying they are getting a fresh start and how things are going to be different. first of all, a new start can begin at any time. its just cliche and typical to start it on January 1st. if you want to make a change then do it. i'm kind of OCD about starting things on a good round number but its not really going to make that much of a difference. so if its October 13th and you are ready for a change then start it on October 13th. anyway i digress. the point i'm making is, trying to make changes on New Year's rarely are successful.
with all that said, some people and things just never change. If you are a bitch last year you are probably still going to be a bitch in the new year. if you are clueless and naive in your relationship with a guy with the reputation of being a liar, then i would guess you will still be naive in the new year! some people just don't change! i don't care how old you are, how long you've lived, what you've been through in life, what you're going through right now in your life, or any of that, you should always be thankful and grateful for what you DO have! i've been through some shit in life but i'm still living and though i LOATHE my job, at least i've got one and i feel i have the right to complain and sulk about my past i don't. my dad taught me that life goes on and life isn't far. complaining about things out of your control gets you no where.
my favorite thing is when people with money complain about anything! esspecially young people that never worked a day in their lives b/c mommy and daddy pay for everything and more than likely will until they get married then their husbands will take care of them. its pathetic. you got a brand new car at 16 that you didn't need and wrecked a week after you got it, youre in a sorority in college where you have to pay thousands of dollars to be a part of, you live in an apartment your parents are paying for you to have, and you don't have to work. what is there to complain about?
another favorite is girls complaining about boys, whether it be their boyfriends or a boy they're talking to. if you're in a relationship and you know he has a reputation of being a liar and has a shady past then when you're being told by people you trust things he may or may not be doing, you should definatly think something is up! i mean really. there is a girl i know, she's dating this guy. he's very good looking, tall, has a good job but has a reputation. his girl has been told on occation of things he has done, she's confronted him about it but his smoothtalking ways puts her at ease and she drops it. he has been playing her like a fiddle since they've been dating. they'll probably get married and he will continue to play her b/c she's just that easy to do it to.
lets talk about drama now. there seems to be an apparent age bracket that calls for constant drama in a person's life. this is a time when both guys and girls date either older or our of town b/c the dramatic girls in their own town ruin a good thing for anyone! so it appears everyone calls you a whore. people that shouldn't know these things know this b/c people talk about it so much. if you are being called a whore i would bet money i don't have that you probably have whorish tendencies! it is never in once interest to date someone for an extended period of time only to start dating someone else a few days later. i thought you were in love? *waits 5 minutes* oh wow, you've broken up with that guy now? *waits 5 more minutes* oh NOW you're talking to the guy that has the reputation of being a whore as well and that you told me less than a year ago that you hated. hahahaha, totally saw that one coming. he's lonely and you're desperately in love with him so it only makes sense. and now people are talking about you b/c of it. get over it and move on. if you want him then enjoy him, the best you can with him being so far away. the things he says to you are the same things he says to every girl he's with. trust me <3. girls in small towns are very dramatic and while its fun to read about and watch unfold on facebook, its just something else that annoys me and make me appreciate the fact that i have grown up and have a better sense of morals than most.
now brings me to bitchassness. i have to deal with bitchassness everyday! from the time i get up i deal with it with my mother. she is either stomping around the house b/c she apparently doesn't have the ability to walk lightly, slamming cabinet doors when she closes them at all, yelling at the dog or cat for whatever reason, or slamming the front door as she's leaving for work. all of this early in the mornings while i'm trying to sleep. yes i am 26 years old still living at home, rent free, but now we're both adults and there is a little thing called respect. i stay away from her as much as possible but good grief. have a little respect at 6am and be quiet! if my dad was still around she wouldn't be all loud. the best part is, is when shes trying to sleep during normal daytime hours and i wake her up! she tries to get all pissy. i don't think so.
if i'm not dealing with it at home i'm dealing with it driving to work. it takes me about 20 minutes to get from my house to my job in the next county and thats including the stoplights i hit with no traffic. its a two lane road so why in the hell do people insist on riding my ass all the way there when all they have to do is pass me???????? i can't afford to keep my gas tank full so i've got to improvise on my gas mileage techniques and that comes in the form of cruise control. the road to work is a 55 MPH highway so i set my cruise at at least 60. i'm not going any faster so if you don't like it then pass me. i can't afford a ticket and i'm not going to speed to appease your need for speed.
third dealing with bitchassness. my job. no i don't have a college degree therefore i have to resort to working crappy jobs until i'm either discovered as a model and can make good enough money that i don't have to work, i find a sugar daddy, marry rich, or get a degree and manage to find a job in my chosen field. since none of these are realistic options i'm stuck trying to find a job i enjoy so i'll stay. this means working with many i don't like. don't get me wrong, i enjoy some of the folks i work with but others not so much. not everyone is going to like everyone. i am one of those people. i'm the type of person that has no particular reason to dislike someone, i just don't like some people. everyone has annoying qualities and others have more. some of the people i work with make me want to hit them with a freshly brewed pot of coffee. lol. one thing i've learned in life is this, just b/c you are attractive doesn't give you the right to walk around like your shit don't stink. i'm impressed that some people work at all b/c they think they're so pretty but props to them! but then i learn that those same people are pretty much just working to support their habit of constantly partying. haha. i can't stand it when i'm running my ass off at my job while those same people don't do shit! standing around talking about what happened the night before or making their nightly plans. um there is food to be ran and guests to serve!
bitchassness is just an issue that shouldn't be taken lightly and i don't have time for it anymore! i've been doing well to take myself away from the issue at hand but boy is it difficult when i have to encounter it day after day!
i do believe that is all i've got for now. more to come tomorrow. i'm sure i'll have a good story or two to pop off with :)
so it is the new year. many are saying they are getting a fresh start and how things are going to be different. first of all, a new start can begin at any time. its just cliche and typical to start it on January 1st. if you want to make a change then do it. i'm kind of OCD about starting things on a good round number but its not really going to make that much of a difference. so if its October 13th and you are ready for a change then start it on October 13th. anyway i digress. the point i'm making is, trying to make changes on New Year's rarely are successful.
with all that said, some people and things just never change. If you are a bitch last year you are probably still going to be a bitch in the new year. if you are clueless and naive in your relationship with a guy with the reputation of being a liar, then i would guess you will still be naive in the new year! some people just don't change! i don't care how old you are, how long you've lived, what you've been through in life, what you're going through right now in your life, or any of that, you should always be thankful and grateful for what you DO have! i've been through some shit in life but i'm still living and though i LOATHE my job, at least i've got one and i feel i have the right to complain and sulk about my past i don't. my dad taught me that life goes on and life isn't far. complaining about things out of your control gets you no where.
my favorite thing is when people with money complain about anything! esspecially young people that never worked a day in their lives b/c mommy and daddy pay for everything and more than likely will until they get married then their husbands will take care of them. its pathetic. you got a brand new car at 16 that you didn't need and wrecked a week after you got it, youre in a sorority in college where you have to pay thousands of dollars to be a part of, you live in an apartment your parents are paying for you to have, and you don't have to work. what is there to complain about?
another favorite is girls complaining about boys, whether it be their boyfriends or a boy they're talking to. if you're in a relationship and you know he has a reputation of being a liar and has a shady past then when you're being told by people you trust things he may or may not be doing, you should definatly think something is up! i mean really. there is a girl i know, she's dating this guy. he's very good looking, tall, has a good job but has a reputation. his girl has been told on occation of things he has done, she's confronted him about it but his smoothtalking ways puts her at ease and she drops it. he has been playing her like a fiddle since they've been dating. they'll probably get married and he will continue to play her b/c she's just that easy to do it to.
lets talk about drama now. there seems to be an apparent age bracket that calls for constant drama in a person's life. this is a time when both guys and girls date either older or our of town b/c the dramatic girls in their own town ruin a good thing for anyone! so it appears everyone calls you a whore. people that shouldn't know these things know this b/c people talk about it so much. if you are being called a whore i would bet money i don't have that you probably have whorish tendencies! it is never in once interest to date someone for an extended period of time only to start dating someone else a few days later. i thought you were in love? *waits 5 minutes* oh wow, you've broken up with that guy now? *waits 5 more minutes* oh NOW you're talking to the guy that has the reputation of being a whore as well and that you told me less than a year ago that you hated. hahahaha, totally saw that one coming. he's lonely and you're desperately in love with him so it only makes sense. and now people are talking about you b/c of it. get over it and move on. if you want him then enjoy him, the best you can with him being so far away. the things he says to you are the same things he says to every girl he's with. trust me <3. girls in small towns are very dramatic and while its fun to read about and watch unfold on facebook, its just something else that annoys me and make me appreciate the fact that i have grown up and have a better sense of morals than most.
now brings me to bitchassness. i have to deal with bitchassness everyday! from the time i get up i deal with it with my mother. she is either stomping around the house b/c she apparently doesn't have the ability to walk lightly, slamming cabinet doors when she closes them at all, yelling at the dog or cat for whatever reason, or slamming the front door as she's leaving for work. all of this early in the mornings while i'm trying to sleep. yes i am 26 years old still living at home, rent free, but now we're both adults and there is a little thing called respect. i stay away from her as much as possible but good grief. have a little respect at 6am and be quiet! if my dad was still around she wouldn't be all loud. the best part is, is when shes trying to sleep during normal daytime hours and i wake her up! she tries to get all pissy. i don't think so.
if i'm not dealing with it at home i'm dealing with it driving to work. it takes me about 20 minutes to get from my house to my job in the next county and thats including the stoplights i hit with no traffic. its a two lane road so why in the hell do people insist on riding my ass all the way there when all they have to do is pass me???????? i can't afford to keep my gas tank full so i've got to improvise on my gas mileage techniques and that comes in the form of cruise control. the road to work is a 55 MPH highway so i set my cruise at at least 60. i'm not going any faster so if you don't like it then pass me. i can't afford a ticket and i'm not going to speed to appease your need for speed.
third dealing with bitchassness. my job. no i don't have a college degree therefore i have to resort to working crappy jobs until i'm either discovered as a model and can make good enough money that i don't have to work, i find a sugar daddy, marry rich, or get a degree and manage to find a job in my chosen field. since none of these are realistic options i'm stuck trying to find a job i enjoy so i'll stay. this means working with many i don't like. don't get me wrong, i enjoy some of the folks i work with but others not so much. not everyone is going to like everyone. i am one of those people. i'm the type of person that has no particular reason to dislike someone, i just don't like some people. everyone has annoying qualities and others have more. some of the people i work with make me want to hit them with a freshly brewed pot of coffee. lol. one thing i've learned in life is this, just b/c you are attractive doesn't give you the right to walk around like your shit don't stink. i'm impressed that some people work at all b/c they think they're so pretty but props to them! but then i learn that those same people are pretty much just working to support their habit of constantly partying. haha. i can't stand it when i'm running my ass off at my job while those same people don't do shit! standing around talking about what happened the night before or making their nightly plans. um there is food to be ran and guests to serve!
bitchassness is just an issue that shouldn't be taken lightly and i don't have time for it anymore! i've been doing well to take myself away from the issue at hand but boy is it difficult when i have to encounter it day after day!
i do believe that is all i've got for now. more to come tomorrow. i'm sure i'll have a good story or two to pop off with :)
Sunday, January 1, 2012
playing Ketchup already
so tomorrow i have to work all day. 8am til about 10pm. while i'm not scheduled but 3 days this work week it still blows to know i'm spending so much time at a place i dispise so much! so i've decided this post is going to be how much i hate my job and hopefully give people yet another insiders opinion of how your actions affect those of is in the sithdown resturaunt industry :).
Alright, first things first. My position at work are Hostess and Server so I get 2 sides of dealing with people face to face each time i work. As a Hostess we have the distinct "pleasure" of being smiley and polite while guests/customers come to our host stand and are ready to be sat. Here is where the problems begin.
If the phonecall that has been made to or from you is so important that you can't speak to me and give me your undivided attention so I can effectivaly do MY job then please do not come to me wanting to be sat. it is rude of you and pretty much just annoys me.
If you can't open your mouth and speak to me and tell me how many are in your party then please don't bother. i think the most obnoxious thing anyone can do is when they are walking toward me and either mouth how many or hold up with their fingers the number of people in their party! you need a table for 2? holding up 2 fingers only makes me think you're a hippy and giving me the peace sign. 5 in your party? don't be shocked if i give you a high five and ask how many people we need to seat for you.
Another thing that bugs the CRAP out of a Host or Hostess, if there is a particular table in a resturaunt you do or don't want to sit by all means tell them. We sit you at a certain table for a reason, its called rotation and it is what's best of the servers. you want the best service possible right? it is OUR job to seat people accordingly and it is not your the best interest for us to double and triple seat servers so when we seat you in the back of the resturaunt don't take it personal, its all part of rotation. but by telling us you would like a windowseat or you don't want to sit next to the kitchen, that is perfectly ok and we will be more than happy to try and accomodate that request but do so when we first greet you b/c i do not feel like running all over the floor to apease you b/c you're picky and can't speak up.
Now lets talk about guests from a Server's point of view shall we?
when you go out to eat do people really understand the ramifications of how they act in public? i have encountered some of the MOST annoying, abnoxious, and downright rude people and people with such a sense of entitlement i've ever seen! i think it should be mandatory for EVERYONE to have to work in a customer service, face to face type of job for a week and see what its like on the other side then people may feel a little ashamed by the way they act towards others.
As a server i make $2.18 on the hour plus my tips. the company i work for mandates this. this company will probably never have a restuaraunt in certain states b/c they will not go up on the starting Server wage of $2.13 an hour. Yes i can make decent tips but its not worth the stress i get when trying to work for them. i am not an asskisser. never have been and never will be. If you can't afford to leave at least $3 on a $15 bill then please, don't eat out. Servers live off their tips, that is how they get paid. some days I don't make what someone making minimum wage does and in Kentucky that is $7.25. don't get my wrong, i am very pleased with any tips i get but i've got bills to pay and now that the beginning of the year is upon us, we're about to get screwed. business is going to be slowing down tremendously.
enough of the money issue lets talk about your role as a guest. it isn't hard. you're hungry and i am there to serve you food and send you on your way. i don't mind that, its a very simple thing that so many people seem to not be able to comprehend that sets the tone for the rest of the meal. READ THE FRIGGIN MENU!!!!! the menus are there for you to decide what you want to eat and what all comes with what you want. if you have questions them by all means, ask but good grief, most menus haven't changed in YEARS and when you've been in a place to eat multiple times a week for years on end then you should know what comes with what and one what. when i worked at a fastfood restuaraunt it killed me little by little inside when people asked if the meals came with drinks. it says it on the menu board and all meals have come with drinks for years!
another thing is know what you've ordered. i don't know how many times food can be ran to the table and the people sitting there look like the food placed before them have things growing in them! if you're memory is that bad then please see a doctor about it.
think its cute to knowingly going out to eat only to get up and leave and when its time for me to leave and I can't b/c you walked out on the check? do i really care about my place of employment? no actually i don't but it is my current workplace and i will respect it for as long as i'm employed but when you walk out on a check that is what causes a rise in foodcost and it hurts me and it makes you look like a fool too. it happens with all kinds of people so there are no real generalizations but no matter who you are, you are scum.
have you ever noticed, as a regular, you have asked to sit in a certain section only to be told an excuse and sat somewhere else? or you are sat in a requested section, you see the server you want but are being helped by someone else? yeah that's b/c they don't want you in their section and they have pawned you off to someone else. there are some gross people out there, usually men, and there are also just some people that have made an undesirable name for themselves that NO ONE wants to wait on. think about it, could you be one of those people?
i know what you're thinking, if i hate my job so bad then why don't i do everyone a favor and quit or find another job? um do you really think i haven't been working on that? trust me i have been looking since about the second month into this horrible excuse for a job but if you have any intelligence about you, you would know that jobs aren't exactly that available right now. i couldnt even get a call back for a seasonal job! online applications are about all anyone does anymore and after spending 30 minutes to an hour on one i get sent an email stating i'm not what they're looking for! i don't know what else they could want with the credentials i put and i have even reapplied with dumbed down responses but still can't get anywhere.
So yes, i am looking for different employment and have had a few interviews but nothing yet. until then i have to suffer through the dumb people and continue to struggle like everyone else.
I feel better now that this is off my chest. i just hope people realize that pretty much the only perk of being a server is the instant money and the majority are college students. if it wasn't for them you wouldn't be eating so be mindful of how you treat them and tip accordingly :)
Alright, first things first. My position at work are Hostess and Server so I get 2 sides of dealing with people face to face each time i work. As a Hostess we have the distinct "pleasure" of being smiley and polite while guests/customers come to our host stand and are ready to be sat. Here is where the problems begin.
If the phonecall that has been made to or from you is so important that you can't speak to me and give me your undivided attention so I can effectivaly do MY job then please do not come to me wanting to be sat. it is rude of you and pretty much just annoys me.
If you can't open your mouth and speak to me and tell me how many are in your party then please don't bother. i think the most obnoxious thing anyone can do is when they are walking toward me and either mouth how many or hold up with their fingers the number of people in their party! you need a table for 2? holding up 2 fingers only makes me think you're a hippy and giving me the peace sign. 5 in your party? don't be shocked if i give you a high five and ask how many people we need to seat for you.
Another thing that bugs the CRAP out of a Host or Hostess, if there is a particular table in a resturaunt you do or don't want to sit by all means tell them. We sit you at a certain table for a reason, its called rotation and it is what's best of the servers. you want the best service possible right? it is OUR job to seat people accordingly and it is not your the best interest for us to double and triple seat servers so when we seat you in the back of the resturaunt don't take it personal, its all part of rotation. but by telling us you would like a windowseat or you don't want to sit next to the kitchen, that is perfectly ok and we will be more than happy to try and accomodate that request but do so when we first greet you b/c i do not feel like running all over the floor to apease you b/c you're picky and can't speak up.
Now lets talk about guests from a Server's point of view shall we?
when you go out to eat do people really understand the ramifications of how they act in public? i have encountered some of the MOST annoying, abnoxious, and downright rude people and people with such a sense of entitlement i've ever seen! i think it should be mandatory for EVERYONE to have to work in a customer service, face to face type of job for a week and see what its like on the other side then people may feel a little ashamed by the way they act towards others.
As a server i make $2.18 on the hour plus my tips. the company i work for mandates this. this company will probably never have a restuaraunt in certain states b/c they will not go up on the starting Server wage of $2.13 an hour. Yes i can make decent tips but its not worth the stress i get when trying to work for them. i am not an asskisser. never have been and never will be. If you can't afford to leave at least $3 on a $15 bill then please, don't eat out. Servers live off their tips, that is how they get paid. some days I don't make what someone making minimum wage does and in Kentucky that is $7.25. don't get my wrong, i am very pleased with any tips i get but i've got bills to pay and now that the beginning of the year is upon us, we're about to get screwed. business is going to be slowing down tremendously.
enough of the money issue lets talk about your role as a guest. it isn't hard. you're hungry and i am there to serve you food and send you on your way. i don't mind that, its a very simple thing that so many people seem to not be able to comprehend that sets the tone for the rest of the meal. READ THE FRIGGIN MENU!!!!! the menus are there for you to decide what you want to eat and what all comes with what you want. if you have questions them by all means, ask but good grief, most menus haven't changed in YEARS and when you've been in a place to eat multiple times a week for years on end then you should know what comes with what and one what. when i worked at a fastfood restuaraunt it killed me little by little inside when people asked if the meals came with drinks. it says it on the menu board and all meals have come with drinks for years!
another thing is know what you've ordered. i don't know how many times food can be ran to the table and the people sitting there look like the food placed before them have things growing in them! if you're memory is that bad then please see a doctor about it.
think its cute to knowingly going out to eat only to get up and leave and when its time for me to leave and I can't b/c you walked out on the check? do i really care about my place of employment? no actually i don't but it is my current workplace and i will respect it for as long as i'm employed but when you walk out on a check that is what causes a rise in foodcost and it hurts me and it makes you look like a fool too. it happens with all kinds of people so there are no real generalizations but no matter who you are, you are scum.
have you ever noticed, as a regular, you have asked to sit in a certain section only to be told an excuse and sat somewhere else? or you are sat in a requested section, you see the server you want but are being helped by someone else? yeah that's b/c they don't want you in their section and they have pawned you off to someone else. there are some gross people out there, usually men, and there are also just some people that have made an undesirable name for themselves that NO ONE wants to wait on. think about it, could you be one of those people?
i know what you're thinking, if i hate my job so bad then why don't i do everyone a favor and quit or find another job? um do you really think i haven't been working on that? trust me i have been looking since about the second month into this horrible excuse for a job but if you have any intelligence about you, you would know that jobs aren't exactly that available right now. i couldnt even get a call back for a seasonal job! online applications are about all anyone does anymore and after spending 30 minutes to an hour on one i get sent an email stating i'm not what they're looking for! i don't know what else they could want with the credentials i put and i have even reapplied with dumbed down responses but still can't get anywhere.
So yes, i am looking for different employment and have had a few interviews but nothing yet. until then i have to suffer through the dumb people and continue to struggle like everyone else.
I feel better now that this is off my chest. i just hope people realize that pretty much the only perk of being a server is the instant money and the majority are college students. if it wasn't for them you wouldn't be eating so be mindful of how you treat them and tip accordingly :)
*insert obligatory welcome title here*
*waves* well hello there. first off let me state that my lack of capitalizing at the beginning of my sentences may be a problem for some so i'm warning you now. if that bothers you then don't bother reading my posts b/c my keyboard inhales prefusely (s/p) and it can't keep up with the speed of my typing so its just easier this way.
Moving on now that my disclaimer is out of the way let me just get into the nitty gritty of things. I am a 26 year old single woman still living at home with her mother while she works a crapass job at a sitdown resturaunt 20 minutes away in the next town and also working in a retail store in another city just to try and get a little money flow going in her life! i love cats and am destined to be a catlady. its cool i can deal. the men in my life are very few and the ones that do want to be in my life aren't exactly in the best position to do so but they choose to do it anyway. Hey don't judge til you've been there. no one is perfect except for Jesus and i know He loves me anyway! i will not mess with a married man though. totally off limits. that's a whole blog in itself though so definatly coming soon will be THAT story!
As 2012 has arrived I've chosen to really start something that will make a difference. I don't care if someone reads my stories and is negative about it, I wasn't put on this earth to impress you. I am a late bloomer in life and all the crap i'm going through now as far as relationships go I should have been doing 10 years ago! unfortunatly that is not how God wrote out my life plan but slowly and impatiently I am coming to terms with that. So please, i just ask that you keep an open mind when reading what i have to say b/c i am sure there is someone out there that can relate to what i have to say!
So Happy New Year and Welcome :)
Moving on now that my disclaimer is out of the way let me just get into the nitty gritty of things. I am a 26 year old single woman still living at home with her mother while she works a crapass job at a sitdown resturaunt 20 minutes away in the next town and also working in a retail store in another city just to try and get a little money flow going in her life! i love cats and am destined to be a catlady. its cool i can deal. the men in my life are very few and the ones that do want to be in my life aren't exactly in the best position to do so but they choose to do it anyway. Hey don't judge til you've been there. no one is perfect except for Jesus and i know He loves me anyway! i will not mess with a married man though. totally off limits. that's a whole blog in itself though so definatly coming soon will be THAT story!
As 2012 has arrived I've chosen to really start something that will make a difference. I don't care if someone reads my stories and is negative about it, I wasn't put on this earth to impress you. I am a late bloomer in life and all the crap i'm going through now as far as relationships go I should have been doing 10 years ago! unfortunatly that is not how God wrote out my life plan but slowly and impatiently I am coming to terms with that. So please, i just ask that you keep an open mind when reading what i have to say b/c i am sure there is someone out there that can relate to what i have to say!
So Happy New Year and Welcome :)
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