so on facebook a debate has started as to who should approach who when it comes to dating. that debate started from another question on someone elses status now a guy is giving his point of view and well, its not the most polite discussion on his part. anyway, my opinion on the subject is this, everyone is different!
i want to be courted and persued. period. i am and old soul and believe in romance. plus i'm southern and well wanted to be treated like the lady i am! the point that hussies tend to hurt the good girls chances at guys was made. where i live young women give it up like its going out of style. don't get me wrong, i don't see anything wrong in getting yours when you can. that is totally their choice but don't be offended if you are called a slut b/c of it. i lost my virginity at 25 to someone i am VERY happy to have lost it too. we werent in a relationship, at least a formal one, but to me it was meant to be. i wouldn't change it for anything. the timing was right. i don't know how some girls can just go out there and let a guy pop it in just for a little bit of satisfaction and that be it. i mean thats pretty much how it happened but i know deep down it meant a little something to him too. hes a guy, a young one at that, and i didn't expect him to cuddle or talk about it. i mean we did talk about it later and months after but its all good. i feel no regret, i wasn't heartbroken, he had already done that a few months before, didn't feel used or any of that. thats how i knew it was right.
but i definatly want a man to court me, get to know me, wait a couple months before trying to bed me! the guy i speak of often hasn't tried to lay me down once. i know he wants to and it more than likely won't happen anytime soon but its been almost a year and the time we have spent together we haven't even kissed! oh boy do i want to though! it took me a while to even want to. i don't really know why. it was nice just being around him. we can talk and have good conversation. i don't get that often but we want the same things it just can't happen now. i could sit here and say that it will happen sooner or later but i said the same thing with the other guy and it still hasn't happened. 2 years later... but that guy is just a baby with a lot of learning to do. i'm going to marry him someday :) this other guy, i can see myself marrying him too. i just want to crawl inside him and lay there and i still don't think id be close enough to him. is that the definition of soulmate?
anyway, i am fine where i'm at now. its been a hard pill to swallow but slowly but surely things are coming my way!
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